Be kind and rewind…

I AM TIRED OF PEOPLE TELLING ME I AM TOO NICE!!!

Listen folks, I am well aware that I am too nice. I do not need everyone else to tell me that I am, like it is some sort of insult. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt and do not judge someone based off of their past. I know people change because I have changed so much in the last few years. Everyone grows at a different pace.

I choose to be a nice person. I choose to be kind. I choose to treat people better than they treat me. To me that is not a sign of weakness. I feel as if it is one of my greatest strengths, to see the best in everyone. I shouldn’t be belittled by others for doing so. If you do not understand why I choose to be nice, despite others actions, then maybe you need to reflect on yourself.

I am nice to people that have hurt me so deeply emotionally, that it made me physically ill. I am nice to people that view my kindness as a weakness and try to walk all over me. I am nice to strangers. I am even nice to someone when they’re a dick. I take pride in being the nice person. Being the bigger person. I do not stoop to someone else’s level. That is the easy way out. Sometimes being nice is HARD WORK. Do you know how hard it is to bite your tongue and not lash out when someone looks you in your face and tells you, “You’re never going to be good enough”? Or when someone is being a complete dick for no reason? Sometimes I want scream at people. Sometimes I want to be a royal bitch right back, but I don’t. I feel like being nice to someone when they don’t deserve it, speaks volumes about the kind of character I have.

Giving someone the benefit of the doubt isn’t making excuses for someones behavior. When I give someone the benefit of the doubt it is because I do not know what personal battle they’re struggling with. Those battles we all fight internally have a tendency to make us change our behavior.  Sometimes all you need is for one person to be kind to you for you to change your behavior for the better. I have repeatedly been told to stop giving others the benefit of the doubt, but it is just not who I am.

I will continue to be “too nice.” Why? Because we live in a world where everyone is cold to one another. Everyone is so damn selfish. I get that sometimes you have to be selfish. Hell, I can be selfish, but never to the extent that it hurts someone else. If I am ever mean to you or lash out at you, then you need to know that your behavior was absolutely awful for me to behave that way. I have aimed to hurt others but only after being personally attacked. I know that I have unintentionally hurt others as well and I am genuinely sorry if I hurt you.

Being nice does not make me weak. It does not mean that I am an easy target. I can stand up for myself. I know my value, my worth, and who I am. I will not let someone walk all over me. I won’t be mean to someone for trying either. Friends, family, acquaintances, whomever reads this… STOP TELLING PEOPLE THEY’RE TOO NICE!!!  There is a difference in being nice and being weak. There is a difference in being honest and being a jackass. I am a honest, forward, and kind person. Learning to recognize that all fights are not worth fighting was a huge step for me. Being the bigger person isn’t always easy, but it is oddly satisfying. If you view me as too nice then shame on you.

2 thoughts on “Be kind and rewind…

  1. Nice post here Madelyn. Being nice in the manner that you are, is a hard trait to find. I too love to put out positive energy into the world. However, I am surprised to find that people like to walk all over good people. They think it is their chance to do whatever they want. I like to be nice to people, but I am also not afraid to express to them that their ways are not pleasing. So long as I am still able to be nice to them, while being firm about the things that they do that I do not like, I think I am usually fine. Madelyn, you need to understand that to be nice in the manner that you are, is a gift from God. God himself by nature is nice, and he is that way even when we are messed up, when we sin, when we are mad at him, when we are ungrateful etc. God is consistent, and his mercies are great. Nevertheless, God is also firm about the things that he does not like. Regardless though, he loves us and his love is never watered down, no matter the situation.

    Madelyn, I do not know if you believe in God, but I strongly believe that everyone can benefit from a relationship with God. it is not good enough to be such a good person and have only a few people be good to you. So I would ask that you pray to God about it. Tell the Lord that you want good people to surround you. Tell the Lord that you want goodness to abound all around you, and ask for the Lord’s loving presence to always comfort you. God has never failed, and he would never fail you. If you do not yet have a relationship with the Lord, I would strongly suggest that you begin one. If you already have a relationship with the Lord, that is great! Keep working at your relationship with the Lord, and work to deepen your walk with him.

    If you want to know about God in more detail, you can find further information here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/10/23/a-few-things-that-i-have-learned-about-god/ And Here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/

    May God’s blessings be with you sister, Amen. ❤ ❤

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